The Shocking Truth About Beauty

 

‘The idea that beauty is unimportant is the real beauty myth.’Nancy Etcoff

Egypt

Queen Nefertiti, Ancient Egypt, ca.1370 – ca. 1330 BC

Beauty is something very personal that you sense and respond to on a deep level. It’s hard to define, but when you see it, you feel it very strongly and are moved by it. The beauty I love is in people who look real. A beauty that is pure, natural and not glamorized.’Calvin Klein

Well, thank you, Mr. Klein, for this inspiring saying which seemingly opposes everything we know. Isn’t is funny, really, that today more than ever images of fabricated beauty are forced upon us. With all the filters and airbrushing and perfect lightning how can we even know what a real human being, and not woman only, actually looks like? The standards are cruel and unyielding, yet no one dares to say this perfection we are supposedly aiming at is nothing but simply boring, lacking personality and uniqueness.

Greece

Sappho, Ancient Greece, ca. 630. (612?) – 570 BC

‘Some people prefer to look as if they hadn’t experienced life. My questions is why?’Diane Keaton

Quite.

Medeival

Paris Bordon, Venetian Women at their Toilet, about 1545.

Ironic as it seems, but in today’s day and age, when we have all the information of this world and it is no more a challenge to learn anything and improve oneself, we remain blissfully ignorant to the beauty myth created by corporations with one aim only: to keep us obedient consumers. Indeed, the story of perfect weight – which is, actually, unnatural – is not the story of beauty but one of obedience. Corporations are keeping us hungry – and instead of accepting ourselves for what we are – imperfect but unique and special, we tend to force ourselves to conform to unrealistic norms in attempt to reach the fleeting ideal of perfect beauty – which is not existing. When we strip off the makeup and undo the imaging, what remains is the average, yet underweight, human.

Today, when we have such an abundance of food, why do we starve ourselves?

Twiggy

Lesley Lawson, a.k.a. Twiggy, famous sixties’ English model, born 1949.

At the same time, men are not supposed to be beautiful. Charming, yes. Masculine, yes. But not strictly beautiful like women are. Moreover, the standards of masculine beauty have not changed dramatically through ages, and are only beginning to happen recently.

1940

Forties’ beauty pageant

Why is it that a woman not being mainstream beautiful goes invisible?

And why is it that mainstream beauty is ever changing, so we end up never being beautiful enough?

What is it that makes us feel so insecure and forces us to conform to the unnatural norms?

What is it that we aim to achieve by streaming to attain beauty?

19th century

Portrait of Olimpia Losiowa, 1818-1820.

We realize just how ridiculous these standards are when we explore them through history: from curvalicious renaissance women, to twiggy and today’s Victoria’s Secret models whose only secret is that they are hungry. Really hungry.

Rennaissance

Titian, Venus and the Lute Player (1565–1570)

Besides, isn’t it funny how the image of beautiful men has not changed over time – as opposed to constant transformation of female image.

Are women better buyers or are we simply more self-conscious? 

nineties

Supermodels of the nineties

What is beauty, in its core?

‘ I don’t know why we narrow the definition of beauty so much that we are all reduced to having complexes and feeling inadequate.’ Isabella Rosellini

It was once said how beauty is in the eye of beholder and I cannot agree more. Once we distinguish visually pleasing from beautiful we get on the right page, because more often than not we have been drawn to people who might not have been as visually pleasing as the standard we have been succumbed to. Beauty is, in the end, not about symmetry, shape or color, but rather the attitude we have and energy we radiate.

Monica Bellucci

Monica Bellucci, Italian actress, born 1964.

It is how you feel about yourself that shapes and creates your beauty. 

 

Love Gina Wings

 

 

Coco Chanel on Character: Kick-Ass Advice From the Queen of Elegance

Coco Chanel, the fashion icon of modern age and a role model for a contemporary woman did not ignite only fashion revolution, but a switch in role of a woman in society. Fabulous and unique, her path was not always the easiest one, but thanks to her stubborn persistence and dedication, she has greatly contributed to women being glorified, independent and proud.

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”

Coco persisted in her vision to create fashion for women instead of creating fashion women should obey to, as if fashion was her weapon to show the world how women are free to choose and create the life to best suit them. And she did it with style – clearly depicted in her famous quotes:

“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.”

“A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.”

It was beginning of a century and beginning of a new era: in the uneasy midst of war women got their right to vote and left safety of their homes to work in factories. No longer they were dependent on marriages and support of their men. With this newly established freedom, Coco gave them the right attire, stripping off the rigid corsets and dressing them up in comfortable dresses to follow the natural beauty of a woman clearly defined in her simple saying:

“No one is young after forty, but one can be irresistible at any age.”

This was not welcome at the time at all, but Coco stubbornly refused to act as a conformist and has conquered the rules in the end. And she did it like no one else could.

“I wanted to escape, and to become the center of a universe of my own creation, instead of remaining on the margins or even becoming part of other people’s universe.”

 “For a woman betrayal has no sense – one cannot betray one’s passions.”

Coco understand the time, understood women, and knew their power.

“If you’re sad, add more lipstick and attack. Men hate women who weep.”

It is not by chance that it was her business, maybe the only big business, that survived the Second World War, and continued to flourish further. Coco used style and gave women elements of seduction, and by doing this, she was encouraging them to feel free as they were, aware of their real powers neglected for so long.

“In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different.”

By refusing to match the norms she has become the building block of the modern world, for the first time allowing women to be both comfortable and fashionable. Indeed, through her creations she was creating new dreams for women, dreams of freedom and equality, bringing entirely new way of thinking.

“Adornment, what a science! Beauty, what a weapon! Modesty, what elegance!”

Importantly, she pointed out to a crucial direction which makes women’s life easier and utterly exciting…

“I don’t understand how a woman can leave the house without fixing herself up a little – if only out of politeness. And then, you never know, maybe that’s the day she has a date with destiny. And it’s best to be as pretty as possible for destiny.”

In addition, her perception of beauty and allure is everlasting…

“You can be gorgeous at thirty, charming at forty, and irresistible for the rest of your life.”

She was a creator her entire life. We lost her in January 1980. of natural causes, while she was working on a new collection for the upcoming fashion show. By providing encouragement, individualism and hope to women,Coco indeed lived as a queen, and died as a legend.

“It’s probably not just by chance that I’m alone. It would be very hard for a man to live with me, unless he’s terribly strong. And if he’s stronger than I, I’m the one who can’t live with him. … I’m neither smart nor stupid, but I don’t think I’m a run-of-the-mill person. I’ve been in business without being a businesswoman, I’ve loved without being a woman made only for love. The two men I’ve loved, I think, will remember me, on earth or in heaven, because men always remember a woman who caused them concern and uneasiness. I’ve done my best, in regard to people and to life, without precepts, but with a taste for justice.”

 

Coco… really was one of a kind. She lived up to her saying, created an empire and continues to live in the beauty of her creation.

“You live but once; you might as well be amusing.”

Quite.

 

Love Gina Wings

 

 

The Secret of Happiness – Quantum Physic’s Perspective

Someone once said, and could not have been more right: We are all the same. We are all looking for happiness.

What might differ, though, is every individual’s idea on what happiness actually is. Ephemeral as it is, musing on true nature of happiness is an unlimited source of inspiration and – hopefully – discovery.

Perhaps quantum physics, similarly unreal yet proven existing, might help us find the answer to this ultimate question.

In his inspiring and insightful interview, quantum physicist Amit Goswani, Ph.D, provides a key to understanding happiness, and, hopefully, once we understand it, we are on the right path of achieving it.

If physical reality indeed is, as Dr. Goswani claims, constituted of four bodies: physical world, mind, feelings and intuition, all embodied in wholeness which is the fifth body, to be content in it it is imperative that the unity of all four bodies in the fifth be present.

Any separation takes us away from desired state of happiness.

To further understand the concept we might ponder Amit’s words:

“We have to take a long-term view. Nothing much can be done in short-term.

The negative emotional brain circuits are real, they are built into us and therefore there’s a tendency to be competitive, there’s a tendency to be jealous, there’s a tendency to protect yourself in survival of yourself. Considering that as the major purpose of life – there is that tendency.

But, how to rise above this tendency? So, we have to make this balancing act: life is a balancing act, of balancing these negative emotions with positive, noble emotions.

So, we love, and we love in action. When we love in action brain circuits of love are created. If we become good to our neighbors in action, not just talking about it, then the brain circuit is created; and then, when I’m feeling competitive one of these brain circuits will come to my rescue and lift me up.

So, building these brain circuits is most important, and recognizing that quantum physics is really saying that the world consists of possibilities. With creativity we can create the world that just suits us perfectly: for our growth, for our growth from separateness to wholeness.”

According to Dr. Goswani, love is the easiest way to achieve the described, but, importantly, it is not the only way. Our journey from separateness to wholeness can also be achieved through beauty, justice and goodness, and it is up to us the chose the channel that suits us, our character and temperament best. There is no right way or wrong way, only our way to reach wholeness – and the key is to get into it. Dr. Goswani names this method ‘Do-Be-Do-Be-Do’, emphasizing that getting into right way of thinking is just one step towards realization, and we need to do is act upon it as well.

“Talking is just the result of getting into right thinking, and you have to compliment the right thinking with right living, and then you have to compliment that further, that to create right livelihood for everyone so that right thinking and right living is possible.”

To reach this state we have to engage in activities in the quantum way, which simply means performing actions which make us relax into unconsciousness.

“Engaging in the activity in the quantum way is purifying for the mind, is purifying for ourselves, it enables us to grow.”

Or, simply put – pure magic!

 

The interview with Amit Goswani, Ph.D. conducted by Lilou Mace is enriching in its entirety. It will alter your perception of reality and our role in it. Be sure to watch it!

 

 

Love Gina Wings